Papillon Counselling and Psychotherapy Services

  Cindy Elkerton, Registered Psychotherapist

When you are grieving, you experience many different thoughts and feelings.

As strange as your emotions may seem, they are a true expression of where you are right now. Rather than deny or feel victimized by your feelings, we want to help you learn to recognize and learn from them.  Naming your feelings and acknowledging them are the first steps to dealing with them. It’s actually the process of becoming friendly with your feelings that will help you heal.


Also keep in mind that feelings are not good or bad. They just are. If you’re feeling a feeling as you’re grieving, that simply means you need to explore it and find healthy ways to express it.


Some losses have nothing to do with death, but they can still be really challenging to deal with. In some cases, it might be hard to explain what happened and why you’re so upset. But no matter how it happened, it can hurt a lot when you experience a big change.  Some of the ways that you can lose someone and experience grieving are:

  • Breaking up
  • Moving far away
  • Divorce of family members
  • Fighting with friends and not being able to make up
  • Losing your spirituality
  •  Losing important ideas, or dreams that really mattered to you
  • Life-changing or life-threatening illness
  • Developing a disability